Every Friendship Operates as Mutual Sculpting
Listening is a skill involving being responsive to what someone else is saying. When we find someone who listens, they become a friend. What is listened-to doesn't just need to be words. One also read...
You Cannot Talk Yourself Out of Caring
Try this thought experiment: spend an afternoon convincing yourself that nothing matters. That we're temporary arrangements of atoms, cosmically insignificant, that your preferences are just chemistry...
Consistency Gradients
Sometimes legacy is thick — arriving with detailed instruction manuals about how it should be applied to everyday life. Sometimes it is thin — weightless suggestions drifting through generations witho...
Knowledge Accumulates Beneath Articulation
Besides instruction, scaffolding and guidance, we learn most effectively by observation. Observing phenomena without narrative or notes, we label components ourselves. Many understand this intellectua...
The Hygiene is the Boundary
The membrane dissolves. I've been thinking about hygiene as architecture—not of spaces, but of consciousness. Picture this: your skin is a screen, constantly negotiating what stays in, what gets pushe...
Future Bandwidth Allocation
We are trying to figure a way to resolve the conflict between the past which wants the future to be in a certain way and the present which wants to do its own thing. It is difficult. We want to trust ...
Libraries Written in Human Bodies
Picture a museum where the most valuable artefacts are invisible. The plaques describe empty pedestals: "Here stands twenty years of debugging," "This space contains the muscle memory of ten thousand ...
The Architecture of Personal Stability
>> The Architecture of Personal Stability For years, I operated without understanding the fundamental mechanics of my own well-being. I lacked a coherent framework for understanding why certain period...
A Vintage Radio That Only Picks Up Certain Frequencies
Inheritance begins before the will is written. We arrive pre-loaded with ancestral software, entire operating systems humming beneath consciousness. These aren't files we can simply delete—they're fou...